Drew picks on her.
A lot.
Here he is growling at her.
(Something he does at least once every hour while she's awake.)
And twisting her arm.
And stealing her paci.
Yoink.
Oh yeah, and trying to push her off the coffee table.
Thanks, Daddy.
How do I get him to be nice to her, besides banishing him to his bedroom every time he's mean? (Because that is what I do... and it's not working.)
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My guess...he wants attention. What to do about it...??? Good luck. You're an awesome mom. I know you'll figure it out. :)
We totally went through this with our second. Bear used to hit her. Here's what I did: rush to her and give her lots of lovey dovey attention every time he does something to her. Coo her name etc. And completely ignore him and the bad behavior. Especially don't say his name. Then, the second he does something (even a step in the right direction) shower HIM with attention. Basically, his plan is to get attention when he does stuff like that. So you make his plan backfire.
They're both so adorable Leah! love it!
And I can't believe how peacefully she seems to take most of this. Too funny!
Awe...sad! They sure are cute though!
sorry! I guess that is the challenge of having two! I get after Katelin all the time because she is just too ROUGH!
I think it's important to teach the older sib a good replacement activity which also earns them attention (positive attention)- say reading a book to the baby, or bringing a toy, or just talking sweetly, or trying to get a laugh. That's worked pretty well for us. Time-outs work better for negative behaviors with the positive attention thrown in.
Awww...poor thing! That reminds me of my boys!!! Unfortunately, I don't have any good advice for you! I think eventually they get tired of bothering/hurting them, but it takes a while. And I just put my kids in time out too. But, Zoey is a tough girl because of her brothers. I'm thinking Lily is going to be tough too!!!
and she WILL learn to fend for herself (maybe)- Savannah has learned to survive in the world of big brother- now she is aggressive! :) He's just being loving and not mean right?! growling? cute-- a little 10month old here growls because her older sibling does-maybe she'll learn to growl back?!!
how are you Leah?! I miss miss miss you!!!!
Does Drew have toys in his room? Because if he does, then it may not feel like a punishment to him. He may even ENJOY going to his room. You could start taking toys away every time he acts poorly.... But other than that- I've got nothing!
poor little lily. she is going to be one tough cookie whether she wants to be or not!
Ryan and I both have two older brothers, so we're pretty sure we were mauled/dropped/picked on/hit etc constantly as babies and look how great we turned out?
Sounds very familiar! Same thing happened when I had my second. Luckily it hasn't happened with my third.
What hb said is exactly right and totally worked for me. It didn't work over night, but it did eventually work.
Good Luck! Super cute kids!
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